'Insecure' Teaches Me: Our Pu**ies Are Not Broken These Men Are

Issa Rae is the sh*t. She's been the sh*t since Awkward Black Girl, her production of Roomieloverfriends, and backing of Amanda Seales's series Get Your Life! For a while now I've been following her moves and wondering when Issa and her #BLACKGIRLMAGIC would pop off. This year Issa's Insecure broke barriers in the entertainment industry. 
Insecure is a comedy that gives insight to the contemporary world of Black Women and serious complexities of Blackness and Black womanhood. 
I know I'm late on the Insecure wave. When my sister and I were having a conversation about dating in this day in age she jokingly texted me: "I think my pu**y is broken". I replied, You're pu**y is not broken, it's just dealing with the times. We'll since we've been going to the same sh*t as the lonely ass, confused single Black women "OUR p******* must be broken". Then she hit me with the question: "Have you've been watching Insecure"? I didn't know how to respond other than to say I've haven't got a chance to watch it all. I've seen a little bit of the show here and there and I like it. Inside I knew damn well I didn't watch a full episode (well up until now that is). Although I was busy and stressed out with school, I truly wished I watched Insecure sooner because Issa is speaking facts to the souls of Black women everywhere. Throughout the series Issa engages in the contemporary problems of Black womanhood we know all too well:

  1.  The Stagnant Relationship
  2.  Dating "Potential" and The Struggle of Men Who are Finding Themselves
  3.  The Struggle of the Black Identity: What's does it mean to be Black enough?
  4. Racial Boundaries
  5.  Blunt ass children (oh, the reads were terrifying)
  6.  Measuring success
  7. Anatomy of Black Women
  8. The Black Man vs. The Black Woman
  9. Black men and interracial dating  
  10. Natural Hair 
  11. The Single Black Woman
  12.  Dating in the Hookup Generation 
  13.  Blackness in White spaces and,
  14.  The Case of Broken Pu**ies (TCBP)
The list could go on because what Insecure unpacks is just that deep to what the Black community has been talking about for some time. I could do a whole essay on the show, but, honestly, I want to talk about The Case of Broken Pu**ies. A running joke through the series TCBP all started when Issa attends the club with her best friend Molly and is encouraged by an ex-boyfriend to rap on stage. Just in case you didn't get a chance to see it:

To some 'Broken Pu**y' might be another entertaining song, but in all actuality, if we look past the lyrics Broken Pu**y it is an ode to Black women who feel something is wrong with them because their dating life or lack thereof is in shambles.

Dudes take her off the shelf, and put her on credit, 30 days later, they return it and regret it..dumped like a hashtag I blame it on the pussy - Issa Rae 'Broken Pu**y'
Not having anything, or anyone else to blame for the sh*t that goes wrong in our relationships, figurately speaking it must be the pu**y. Throughout the series, we realize the problem of being 'broken' is not fixed on the many conversations we have with our girlfriends about the brothas who ain't sh*t or even the men who are full of "potential "and never get anywhere. The case of being 'broken' or the negative views we have of ourselves is based on those we have a relationship with. The men in our lives, who make us feel like we ain't sh*t because they weren't sh*t enough to get it together. Trust me, it's not all men, there are plenty out there of substance.

Yet, these are not the complex men we see in the show. What Issa is examining through 'Broken Pu**y' is that as Black women we are taking on the problems of a generational curse:

1. The men who slide into the DM looking for nothing more than the physical
2. The men who lead you on
3. The women who fall in love with the potential of a man who does not know himself and cannot be in a relationship
4. Those who pretend to be of perfection and it's too good to be true
5. The women who are confused about what they want in a relationship and skip over a good man because he is not 100%  of everything they've dreamed of (but is 90% together)
6. Those who do the bare minimal and expect great rewards

It's important to understand that we are not defined by these problems and should not feel the need to do so. We're all taking losses left and right but as Black women maybe we've had enough and don't want to end up in a world as a lonely and broken pu**y.

Cheers to Issa Rae and I look forward to seeing the next season of Insecure.


  1. The show was amazing and I can't wait for season 2. What I loved about it, is that it showed all these different experiences and how being in a relationship is not all it's cracked up to be and being single is hard as hell at times. #BLMGirl

  2. Indeed!!! Issa is AMAZING!!!!!! I'm thirsty for season two as well